Truth, Crying, Lies, Smiling

I'm sorry, I'm a very blunt person. I'm the one people go to if they wanna hear how it really is. I'm not gonna sugar coat it because it'll hurt more in the end.

I don't understand how people can live in a lie, or appreciate a fake friendship or relationship once they find out they've been lied to. Cuz it will come out. It always does. So just be honest so that you can actually talk through the issues, maybe find some common ground and move forward without having to keep things bottled in while lying through your teeth just so you don't hurt someone.

It may sound cliche, but honesty is always the best policy. That only hurts you more in the end.

The Old Me Is The Best New Me

I was binge watching seasons 1 & 2 of "Grace & Frankie" and Lily Tomlin, who plays Frankie, said this. How many times, in the midst of chaos and hard times, do we forget our own strength and power? Sometimes, channeling ourselves when we were at our best is all we need to do.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GK3Fq0cbyqY

You Are Where You're Meant to Be...For Now

I just showed my mom a picture I was tagged in from 6th grade. She asked me, "don't you wish you were that age again??" My reply was, "no, too much cool shit has happened to me since then."

And that's the truth. Sure, I have amazing memories from my entire life so far, but many of those things took place after that picture. More importantly, I choose to believe Danny Gokey when he sings "My Best Days Are Ahead of Me."

I believe we are always where we are meant to be and it is always leading us to the place for our highest good. Sure, there are hard times we all go through and wish we weren't going through it at the time. But nothing lasts forever, including the hard times. They are merely lessons we must learn in order to appreciate all of the good in store for us.

Wishing we were somewhere else in life is not living in the present. It fills us with nothing but envy, anger, resentment, sorrow, sadness and any negative emotion we can think of. Even reminiscing has an heir of negativity. Think about it, how many times have we all said "those were the good old days!" As if we won't ever have days that good, or better, ever again. We won't, only if we decide we won't.

Mother kills her disabled daughter, then attempts suicide

There were 2 stories recently about disabled kids that pissed me off. I spoke about one in the last blog, but I speak about it in my newest vlog too, as well as another story that was even worse.

Apparently, a mother was dying of cancer and she didn't trust the government with her disabled child so she killed her and then attempted suicide. I understand not trusting the good for nothing system. What I never understand or condone is murder...

https://youtu.be/8iOtlr5skR0

Dear Parents of Disabled Kids

I was on Facebook today and saw a video that absolutely disgusted me. A friend of mine posted it with nothing but good intentions, but everything was wrong with it. I will link it at the end of this blog, but first let's discuss.

There is nothing wrong with people with disabilities, I don't care how severe. If someone on their deathbed can hear you, I don't care how severely "disabled" someone is, they can hear you too if they are not classified as hearing impaired. The video was of this man sobbing next to his 2 year old disabled son and his other child was reading the feed of his chat a few feet away, also susceptible to everything the father was saying.

He was crying about how his son would never do this or that, asking himself basically what he did to deserve it. Don't get me wrong, no child is ever sunshine and roses 24/7 so even parents of children without disabilities will go through weak moments and they're totally entitled to it. But a parent's #1 job is to love and BELIEVE in their child ABOVE ALL ELSE. Above their own doubts, above anything a doctor says...about EVERYTHING.

He's probably right because whether you think you can or can't, you're right. So he's going to raise his son under the assumption he WILL NOT improve and reach strides like other kids. And his other child will hear all of it. My younger brother got nervous something would happen to me even though I was raised as being no different. I can't imagine how damaging it would have been to hear my parents cry and act like they're being punished. For myself and my brother, that would have given no hope. It was so normal for him to see me in a wheelchair, he asked when he was getting one!

Listen, I'm by no means saying most of it will be easy for any parent, let alone a single one with a special needs child and their sibling to take care of. But this guy needs to be careful because the other child sounded like he was consoling his grown father and that's not healthy for a child to step into that role. If he wants to break down and cry, he should do it alone or find friends in a support group. I recommend an uplifting one where parents do more than sit around and cry, but instead encourage each other.

My parents raised me to believe I can do anything, despite doctors telling them I'd pretty much be a vegetable my entire life (doctors' words) and it's helped me grow into the self sufficient woman I am today. To be honest, I'm probably better mentally than most who are walking around. I do everything except walk and I'm by no means a vegetable. It's all in how you raise your kids, not the circumstances they're born under or what a doctor tells you. Don't give up on them before they even have a chance because proving doctors wrong has been so much fun for me!

Here is the video:

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1282174208481190&id=731743396857610

Here is a video I made last year on the subject of parents who have children with disabilities:


 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gghr9aODvUU

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Disabilities & Lack Mentality

Whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right. Too many people have a lack mentality nowadays, especially people with physical challenges.

https://youtu.be/JIvIpH2_UKY