Thursday, February 14, 2019

Being A Disabled Advocate & Pushing Past Paralysis

I was asked a question recently that I couldn’t give a short answer to, so I thought I’d vlog and blog about. The question was basically:

“Are you really disabled and how do you know the statistics when I have to search your page and still can’t find what your disability actually is?”

The answer is quite simple: I’m not defined by disability but that doesn’t mean I can’t advocate for those of us who have them AND, simultaneously, teach others how to push past paralysis themselves by living that way myself. The idea that I have to shout from the rooftops and identify with my disability is ridiculous. My username almost everywhere is “Push Past Paralysis”, you’d think that’d be enough. I guess not. 

As far as how I advocate, it’s pretty simple. If you approach the world or people as if they are against you, you won’t get anywhere close to your mission being completed. That’s projection coming from YOU. Ask to sit down, converse, come to the table with facts, insight & drive. See how things unfold from that approach. You’d be surprised. 

I have even more upsetting news for this person and any others who think like him. I live even LESS consumed by my disability in real life. The only reason I even address it online is because I like to connect with people and hope to help those struggling in any way with their own “paralysis” (whether in mind, body or spirit) with my story. 

Granted, this person was kind of whacky and proceeded to demand information about my disability from my friends after I’d blocked him. Had he asked in a nice way and wasn’t so aggressive about it, we could have had a dialogue. Like I said, I did want to address the question for anyone else wondering for themselves, which is exactly why I’m posting this blog and why I made a YouTube video. 

I hope you enjoy it and will subscribe to my channel for many similar videos! 

Tuesday, January 8, 2019

The Disabled Are The Truly Forgotten Men & Women Of America

I wanted to run some numbers by you, to give a little perspective to the political climate today.

An estimated 54 million Americans are living with disabilities.

$200 Billion per year is supposed to be allocated to American people living with disabilities.

People living with disabilities are among 20% of the world’s poorest people.

The unemployment rate among people living with disabilities is around 88%.

Between 785 and 975 million people 15 years old and up are living with disabilities.

Doctors are significantly undertrained in the field of disabilities, let alone for specific disabilities. Let’s not even get into how people living with disabilities are treated in nursing homes or assisted living facilities.

The sick part is that the funds for all of this are approved, but where are they going? Not to those of us living with disabilities. I’m no mathematician, but something isn’t adding up!

Now let’s shift gears a little bit...

There were 10.7 million illegal aliens living in the United States in 2016. The net cost to state, local and federal US government is approximately $116 billion per year. Yes, it fluctuates based on the number of illegals currently here and does not count when an illegal commits a crime and how much that costs the government. 56,000 illegal aliens are in our prison system. In 2018, 1.7 million pounds of narcotics have been seized, 17,000 adults were arrested with criminal records which included 6,000 gang members and there’s a huge human trafficking issue.

Tell me why and how it’s ok for even a small amount of legal American citizens to be suffering, while we welcome and help illegal aliens, many of whom harm our citizens whether by physical harm or smuggling drugs through our borders? How is that logically ok with anyone?!

I’m a conservative self sufficient woman, despite my disability. I’m working hard to not need my monthly check, despite being entitled to it. However, I’m very aware that many of my fellow Americans are suffering greatly and can not help but need to rely on the government to help them. People living with disabilities deserve to live as well as the average American, and maybe even get better help on living more independently as much as possible. Instead, they are being taken advantage of, under cared for and neglected and many, I would bet, don’t even realize it. It is sickening to me and it’s gone on for far too many decades!

Bottom line, a wall would save American lives of every gender, color and ability. It will also free up funds that are supposed to be going to Americans that need it and are entitled to it!

Monday, January 7, 2019

I’m doing Paulie Calafiore’s new 123 Challenge for the Mind Body & Spirit!

Nice to see someone who isn’t using “empowerment” to shit all over someone else. Gotta show support for one of my favorite people, Paulie Calafiore, on his upcoming 3 Step program, which helps me in my own New Years’ Resolution to focus on myself more... SWIPE! Steps out of order for video on purpose. The correct order is

Step 1: Focus on success

My upcoming Mind Body Spirit course #PushPastParalysis

Step 2: Focus within/mental health 
Meditation with crystals as well as re-reading Brenden Dilley’s book “Still Breathin’: The Wisdom & Teachings Of A Perfectly Flawed Man”

Step 3: Focus on health/wellness/fitness I gotta do my favorite exercise my favorite personal trainer fitness instructor Paulie Calafiore taught me. I love the ab roller! Using this thing gives you a full body workout in minutes! πŸ’ͺ

Sunday, October 28, 2018

Exciting Announcements!

Hey everyone!

I have a new phone so I will finally be able to record YouTube videos again with better sound!

I’m also hard at work on my book, which I’m aiming for release on Black Friday or cyber Monday!

I will be turning this website and blog into an information hub for all forms of paralysis and disabilities.

Stay tuned!

Sunday, September 16, 2018

Waking the Lion YouTube channel

I had the honor of appearing on one of my favorite people’s YouTube channels today. Paulie Calafiore from Big Brother, Ex on the Beach & The Challenge but he’s family to me πŸ˜€

Check us out and be prepared to laugh and be motivated!

Monday, September 10, 2018

The 17th Anniversary Of 9/11/01

It seems every year, in the days approaching the anniversary of 9/11/01, I find myself just as passionate as I was on the day it happened. I’m always proudly patriotic, but being from NY, it’s hard not to go right back to that day.

Where were you when the world stopped turning, on that September day?

I was in homeroom. My dad picked me up and I thought something happened to my grandmother who was still alive but sick at the time. She has since passed. I had no concept of the fact that the World Trade Center had been hit or what that meant. I guess I just used to go by “Twin Towers” more often. When I got home, my family had the news on and it was devastating.

The days, weeks, months and years that followed were sad but brought this country together unlike anything I’ve seen before. What’s happened to us? Have we forgotten? Why are we not just as proud to be Americans? Why are we not just as angry at our enemies, both foreign and domestic, who have proven time and again for decades that all they do is let us down? I understand it’s a hard pill to swallow for some, but the proof is in the pudding and most of it is not conspiracy theories.

Have you forgotten?

This president is doing everything he can to give us our country back and so many are blind and ungrateful for it. Not me. I see it. I’ve seen the corruption, living in the NY swamp all my life, and it’s sickening to see people try to take down the first man that’s ever tried, and actually is succeeding, in giving us our country back. It’s personal to him, just as it is to me. He’s been taking notes for decades and it’s time for the revenge and to give us our country back. He’s forgotten nothing.

The world today should be just as much about politics and party lines as it was on 9/11/01 to the average American. Which is not at all. Its about cleaning up the messes this country has been left in for years. The swamp is on both sides and we’re draining it. It’s about freedom, it’s about patriotism and being loyal to and damn proud to be an American, where at least we know we’re free. 

9/11 is also another reason why I stand for the American flag!

Let’s roll to November 2018 & 2020 #MAGA #KAG πŸ‡ΊπŸ‡Έ

Visit the campaign corner at #YourVoiceAmerica

Today is also the anniversary of Benghazi

Wednesday, August 29, 2018

Just an update!

It’s been awhile, so I just wanted to update everyone!

I’ve been working my babysitting job as well as just enjoying the summer. I’ve been hard at work on 2 books and would love to hold events after the first one is released! It is a Mind Body Spirit book on disabilities! I really hope you all enjoy it!

I’ve also been updating my YouTube channel, which is linked on this website.

If you have any questions, I would love to feature and answer them either on my YouTube or in my book.

Monday, July 9, 2018

Thursday, June 7, 2018

Why Should Personal Mistakes In A Public Figures’ Life Negate All Of The Good They’ve Done?

must say, it’s been awhile since I’ve felt the need to write one of these blogs. Maybe there have been reasons to do so since my last one, but I’ve been busy living my life. However, it doesn’t mean that I won’t stand by people I love, so here I am...

As you may have found out, Paulie Calafiore is once again under fire. This time for alleged cheating allegations on girlfriend Danielle Maltby. I feel weird even bringing this up to be honest and the only reason I am is because of the storm it’s causing across the internet. Literally everything bad people have said about Paulie during his time on Big Brother 18 in 2016 is being regurgitated. 

So here’s what I think. Paulie and Danielle are both public figures, I get that. But they are also human beings. I do not condone cheating, however, it is also not my relationship nor is it any of my business OR yours. I don’t understand why people are so quick to demonize nowadays over personal mistakes and make up their own stories and conclusions as to how everyone involved should feel or what they should do. It really reminds me of the term “fake news.”

If Paulie committed an actual crime, I could see the judgment. I could even see being hurt on Danielle’s behalf if you’re a fan of hers. However, cheating is a mistake. A PERSONAL mistake. He’s done nothing to anyone else but Danielle (and if he’s ever actually cheated before.) Unless someone does something personal to me, I’m not jumping on any bandwagons to demonize and hate on them. It does not make him a bad person and it most certainly does not take away anything from my personal experiences with him over the years. He and his family have been nothing but loving and amazing people to me. He’s done so much good for so many people, namely through his charity The Rise Up and I’m sorry but something happening in his personal relationship does not and should not negate all of that. It is by no means a jab at any of the causes he supports. Cheating is a bad thing, of course, however it is not to be compared to rape, abuse or any of the other things people are claiming Paulie is. People REALLY need to learn the difference in that all across the board. Which brings me to my next point...

I will never understand why haters follow or comment on everything someone does whom they can’t stand. Some even take it steps further and harass their family, friends, people they associate with through business and supporters. It’s absolutely ridiculous to me. People have too much time on their hands if all they’re going to do is hate. There is more than enough talent to follow than to concentrate so much of your 24 hours in a day on people you don’t like or support. Spread love, not hate.

I don’t care what anyone else plans to do, but come Tuesday, June 12th, I will once again be repping #TeamPaulie during his stint on “The Challenge” on MTV! Here is Paulie’s personal statement on what has transpired. I believe the LEAST we can do is grant his wish for privacy.

Wednesday, May 9, 2018

My Book Release Date & Title Have Been Chosen!

What better way to celebrate my brother’s life & help others than to release my book on what would have been his 27th birthday? 
I’m still playing around with text but this will be, generally, what the book cover looks like. 

RELEASE DATE AUGUST 5, 2018! It will be available on Amazon. I better keep writing LOL.

Saturday, April 28, 2018

Self Love & Self Care Is Expressing Gratitude to God

We are in a time where we need constant validation, but are often the last to give it to ourselves. We always need or want someone else to tell us how great we are our give us our value. That’s the name of the game when it comes to social media especially. It’s all about the clicks, likes and comments instead of validating ourselves.

Unfortunately, people are quite selfish. You’re going to be an afterthought more than enough times in your life to other people, don’t make one of those people you. Being selfish is NOT the same thing as having self love and self care. If you’re able to take care of, value and love yourself while also wanting to help and give to others, that is the ultimate goal for self love and self care. If you’re going to love yourself and show no love to anyone else, that’s conceit.

Gratitude is a game changer. It can truly turn your life completely around for the better. The law of attraction will ensure that the more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for. If you’re not grateful for who God made you to be and for what you already have, why should you get more? God doesn’t make mistakes. You’re here for a purpose but it’s up to you to figure out what that is for you. 

I know sometimes that’s easier said than done in the midst of hard times. However, if you can’t bring yourself to be grateful, at least trust that God has a plan and knows what He’s doing.

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Wednesday, April 25, 2018

Happy Birthday to Our Beautiful, Legal Immigrant First Lady, Melania Trump!

It’s funny to me, but yet very sad. Melania is everything the liberals and Democrats should love; she’s beautiful, an immigrant who fled a communist country, speaks multiple languages and is a strong woman.

Yet people like Chelsea Handler and the rest of the main stream, fake news media refuse to interview her because they “wouldn’t understand her because of her heavy accent.” Am I the only one who picks up on the hypocrisy here?! She is everything the left should be salivating over!

I’ll tell you why they don’t like her. She stands for everything REAL about America. She legally came here from Slovenia, for one thing. She has an imperfect husband and chooses to stand by him and she puts her child first above all. The hissy fit people had over Barron finishing the school year out in NY was astounding! She’s his mother, first and foremost, mind your own business. For the party of live and let live, they’re sure up a lot of people’s personal business.

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room, shall we? Apparently, we have to treat Donald Trump and his alleged affairs the same way we treated Bill’s, and yet insult his wife relentlessly. The difference, however, is clear. Up until he launched his political campaign, Donald Trump was a private citizen. If he wanted to be a pig, he could. Bill Clinton, however, used the Oval Office so it became our business. Further, up until #metoo, women would brag about having sex with multi-billionaires like Donald Trump. No one was crying rape.

Being in the public eye comes with having to deal with the hate thrown at you, I fully understand that. I’m sure Melania does, too. But she shouldn’t have to. There should be SOME line drawn for attacking someone whose only crime is that her husband is trying to save this country from the REAL crimes that have been committed here. I sincerely hope she enjoys her day today, with family and friends, as well as well wishes from many across America and the world. She deserves nothing less!