People With Disabilities Need Confidence & A Purpose

I’ve always found it so hard to help people with disabilities because they, at least the ones I’ve tried to help, are generally very negative. After a lot of frustration at myself for not being able to help, I’ve since discovered what they need...

Confidence and a purpose outside of themselves and the limiting beliefs they have about their lives.

Often times, it’s easy to get consumed by and focus on our current circumstances and everything that’s gone wrong in our life. If enough goes wrong consecutively, your brain will actually begin operating where all you see is the negative in any situation. Well, what happens when our life is one big ugly circumstance? Randy Pausch said it best in his Last Lecture. He said, “we cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” 

At some point you have to come to terms with reality. It is what it is. The only thing you can control is what you decide to feel about and do about your circumstances. You’re making it a lot worse but choosing, yes I said choosing, to be resistant to the circumstances and do nothing but bitch and complain about them. 

You may not be able to change the circumstances, but you absolutely can change your response to them. That, in and of itself, will change not only your outlook but your life...and the circumstances themselves don’t even need to change for this to happen.

Look, I get it, so many people will tell us we will never amount to anything. If it’s not doctors it’s society and, sometimes, it’s someone very close to us. That’s why the answer must come from within. We need to build our own self worth and confidence and find a reason to go on, a purpose. That’s something universal and certainly not limited to those of us with disabilities.