CAN'T Is Rarely A Fact!

I grew up being taught to never say that I can't do something. It is largely just our perception most of the time anyway. We determine, by our own thoughts and feelings, whether or not we can or cannot do something.

Here are examples between a fact and our own perception:

"I can't change another human being." This is a fact because, despite being an influence on someone, they are the ones who make the choice to change or not.

"I can't climb Mount Everest." This is my favorite one to use when talking to people in wheelchairs. I've talked about it either in a blog or vlog before and got an immediate response from someone in a wheelchair telling me they really couldn't. My answer was, "of course you can't, because you've already convinced yourself and decided that you can't before you even try. That's your perception of and confidence (or lack thereof) in your abilities." And before you dare me to prove to you that it can be done, hold your pants on, I'm not doing it! I can, I just don't want to. Not interested, moving on.

The language you use is incredibly important in how you shape your life, moment by moment. I "joke" with people that even Facebook games can make or break your life. Every time I hear someone say "oh shit, I'm broke, I have no money" and their head is in their phone playing a game, I point out that God and the universe have eyes and ears all over. You may not think the 2 overlap, but here's a secret (from, "The Secret" the movie and book.) The universe only pays attention to the words and vibrations we send out. So even if there are things joked about in the context of a game, pay attention to if it correlates to exactly what's going on in your reality and how often. I'd be willing to bet that it does and that is because the universe is always responding to what we think, feel and say. Create a new habit of speaking abundance and joy into your life.

Another thing to be careful about is when you talk about what you don't want. The universe doesn't understand negation. So if you say something like "I don't want to get sick", you're just sending out a vibration of sickness and shouldn't be surprised if you get a cold or anything else.

I will leave you with this quote:

A man said to the Buddha, “I want Happiness.”
Buddha said, first remove “I”, that’s ego,
then remove “want”, that’s desire.
See, now you are left with only Happiness.

It's Our Fault Disabled People Are Seen As Useless!

There are so many misconceptions and stereotypes of people with physical challenges, handicaps, disabilities or what have you. In my opinion, some people with those physical challenges are to blame for that. Sure, there are people who won't ever stop categorizing, but we can help it a lot if we tried and did it for the right reasons. Ourselves. 

Don't allow yourself to be lumped into a category. Don't believe what others say about what you can and cannot do. Even your doctors, your parents or caretakers. We often adopt the beliefs we are taught about ourselves. If we stop giving our power away, "stand up" and prove what we can do, to ourselves first, then maybe we wouldn't need to fight against society so much. It's a fight that begins within ourselves, or it should. That's a life lesson in general, for everyone.

Changing the narrative coming from ourselves just to get rid of a stereotype isn't the way to go and it will never work. We will continue fighting against the wind. If we simply live our lives to the fullest and stop believing what others say about us and our abilities, we would push more than just our wheelchairs. We'd push our willpower, our inner and outer strength, we'd push past stereotypes and boundaries. We'd push past paralysis.

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How I Cope with Death...Happy Father's Day to All Those in Heaven

*edited yearly to correct amount of time passed*

This will be my 7th Father's Day without my dad and it will be 8 years since I lost him at the end of July. I'm no expert, at the end of the day I'm still just  a girl who lost her father. But I have grieved just as all of the other daughters and sons who have lost their own father, so I thought I'd share what works for me.

We lost my dad in under a year and the end of his (physical) life was pretty quick. He had come down with his third bout of pneumonia due to the leukemia and we just thought they'd go through the same procedure and he'd come home. But that never happened. That week was hell because they'd put him on life support without my moms consent. I never went up because I didn't want to remember him with tubes all over him and, to this day, it is a decision I don't regret. I gave my mom a letter to read to him and I know his soul was with me as I wrote it, as he was preparing to go to heaven. I also did see him after they took the machines off and he held on for 3 hours and 15 minutes.

I grieved hard, like any typical daddy's little girl. I still grieve and have my days. But I also have more faith in the spirit world than I do of earth. We never die, we just change form. My dad is still with me every day, hanging out with me as I lay out in the sun especially. And he's healthy, whole and not in any pain. He's got his hands full again with my brother up there with him! Sure, summer is harder knowing it was my dad and brother's (who we also lost) favorite season, as well as mine. But trusting and knowing that he (they) are still around enjoying it with me, and even a part of creating it now, gives me peace.

On Father's Day, my dad's birthday and other holidays I always like to remember the good times. Not the hard or sad times, not even the heartwarming good times that would still make me cry. My dad was a funny guy, though often times he'd say I was the only one who got his humor. So I like to remember and reflect on the moments that will keep a smile on my face, a laugh in my belly and love in my heart. That is my wish for all of you reading this now who also lost your fathers.

Happy Father's Day to all of the fathers, both on earth and in heaven and to all of the mothers who are also dad too! Happy Father's Day, Daddy💖

God Laughs At Our Plans...I Was Supposed to Be In Florida

I just had one of those days where everything suddenly made sense and the day isn't even over. Actually, the last 2 days I've had this epiphany that just made complete sense. First the death of Christina Grimmie and then the mass shooting in Orlando. So how does this pertain to me and God's plan for me in NY?

I was supposed to be in Florida for the past few days.

For the past few months, friends of mine were planning a charity event. It was a struggle; from people not showing interest, to issues within the organization running it...nothing was going their way and I was in desperate need of a vacation. So we were all frustrated. It was apparent God thought now wasn't the time, though none of us knew why.

It literally just hit me today that this was why. God didn't want any of us in Florida right now. He, the universe, angels all saw what was happening and wanted to protect us from it. This is a big lesson for me, and for many of us. In the grand scheme of things, we only go when we are supposed to, whether that be death, a vacation or even a move. As hard as it is to grasp, it was the time for all lives lost. We don't know why, but maybe God and the universe wanted their death to trigger a change in this world. Just as there is a reason He spared the lives He spared that made it out alive or, like my friends and I, kept lives out of Florida completely during this time.

That does not, under any circumstances, mean I am retracting my previous blog that this is all bullshit and a senseless act of terrorism. But in an effort to bring some understanding to the situation, it's all part of God's plan to change us, to change the world. It's up to us whether we let that be for better or for worse. At the end of the day, we must trust that He knows what He is doing.

Again, my thoughts and prayers to all of those affected by the events in Florida the past few days; the lives lost and those left behind in grief.

Christina Grimmie, Orlando Shooting & the 2nd Amendment

People have it backwards when they sarcastically say things like "thank God that shooter had a gun to protect themselves from all of the people dancing and having fun." No, that shooter schmuck was a criminal and if the victims or the others who were left untouched had guns, maybe his would have been stopped halfway out of his pocket before anyone (but him) got hurt. Criminals do not follow gun laws and nothing they do is ever in self defense. Why is that so hard for people to understand?!

Do I think we need to have heavier investigation into the types of people allowed to obtain gun licenses? Yes. But criminals, especially ISLAMIC RADICAL EXTREMIST TERRORISTS, will not follow any laws. And before you get up my ass on being a hater of Muslims, I'm not. I've met plenty of peaceful Muslims and there are extremists in ALL religions. But when *ISIS, a RADICAL ISLAMIC TERRORIST GROUP, said 3 days ago they were going to do this in Orlando* that should have been taken seriously. Knowing our government, we bought and had their weapons cleaned for them, bowed to them and toasted at dinner to celebrate. This is a border issue, not a gun issue. Come here legally and we won't have a problem, otherwise get the fuck out and don't come back unless you want to know what barbed wire between your legs feels like (Golden Girls reference, sorry LOL.)

Look, the situations in Florida over the past 2 days are grim (no pun intended) no matter how you look at it. But it's been proven through break ins across the US, that in so many instances the home owner will take care of the person who got into their home before the cops even leave for the scene. Let's take it a step further too. If guns kill people and need to be banned, what about killers who use knives, bats, wires, phones to clock someone with to get them off of them? What about people who defend themselves and end up killing someone with a frying pan, stabbing them with a fork in the eye or whatever else they can reach? We will just create another problem for those with eating disorders by banning all food that needs to be cut. Yes, that was sort of a joke but the way this world is going by not blaming the criminal, but instead the weapon or sometimes the victim, it's not that far off.

That's another thing, cops. They're people trying to do their job. Are some corrupt? Probably, just like with any profession. But the amount of shit these men and women get for protecting citizens is disgusting. I'm so sick of people turning everything into anti cop and racist bullshit. How about people are just being assholes and need to follow the law? Please, spare me of your list, in your perspective, of people you feel were unjustly shot by cops. As I said, some are corrupt and in this day and age where we're more divided than together with race and other issues (how ironic), that's why they make the news and the good cops and good people who follow the law of the 2nd amendment are rarely ever seen unless you dig up their story.

I don't have all the answers. All I know is criminals don't follow laws, there's too much hate against people who are different. This was done at a predominantly LGBT club. People need to be accepted for who they are and terrorists need to quit killing our people, no matter their race, sexual orientation, religion etc. The world is so different than when I was growing up. I don't know if it'll ever be the same, but I hope so.


Prayers to all those affected in the last 48 hours.

* http://www.thegatewaypundit.com/2016/06/isis-announced-florida-attack-three-days-ago/

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