Don't take it personally

I recently made a youtube video about this topic, and figured I'd elaborate a little bit on here.

In our closest relationships, we are what I've come to call "bumpers" for each other. This means that we often clash with those closest to us and take everything out on them, even when what is going on has little to nothing to do with that particular person.

We, as humans, feel that we need to take it out on someone. Like somehow bitching and moaning to someone and yelling AT them and not about the real issue, will somehow fix everything. There is good news, however, if you are on the receiving end of someone lashing out at you.

It's not you, it's them.

When people lash out, they will say such mean and hurtful things, that we don't ever stop to think about what they are saying, what they are NOT saying, and why they are saying it. We just react.

Sometimes we do things that hurt other people and we need to take ownership. There is no denying that. However, a lot of the times what people do or say to us has nothing to do with us. If we just stop for a minute and take a breath before reacting, we can better spot when these instances occur. We only make the whole situation worse, including both ours and the other person's feelings, when we react without thinking. We are just doing what they did to us, back to them.

I challenge you. The next time someone lashes out at you, don't take the bait. Let it go or try to gently help the person. Be sure to let me know how it goes!