Governor Kasich Signs Down-Syndrome Abortion Ban In Ohio

Let me start by saying that I’m no fan of Governor John Kasich, but I’m a fan of the abortion ban for Down-Syndrome babies. It is possible that someone you don’t particularly like will do something you 100% support. If there is one time where I’m totally and completely against abortion, completely anti-abortion...it is on the subject of disabilities! 

My parents were given a 50/50 chance I’d live & even less of a chance I’d be a “normal” kid. My point in this is that you never know, so why rob any child of a full life because a doctor scares the shit out of you as a parent? 

When you have sex, you know there is a chance you’re going to get pregnant if you don’t take proper precautions. Even then, there is no guarantee. I’m of the belief that any responsible adult should also take into account that their child could, potentially, be born with a disability. If you aren’t okay with that, it is up to you to take the precautions and NOT take it out on the child, who needs you...or at least someone, to take care of them. If you truly can’t take the thought or the pressure, give them to a family who will love them the way they deserve to be loved. Give them to a family who will help them realize their true potential and prove doctors (and you) wrong. 

It is up to you, as the parent, to raise your child to be strong, independent, kind hearted and a slew of other things. In my opinion, that goes quadruple for a child with a disability. Yes, it is a huge responsibility and I do understand being scared. But open your eyes. Stop looking for what scares you. You’re sure to find it if you look for it. Instead, look for the success stories. There are a lot of us out there and, speaking for myself, I’m more than willing to help. 

The Misconception of What Feminism Really Means

We live in a time where apparently there’s a new definition to every term we thought we knew. Feminism is the newest one...

Feminism, by definition, means “the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the quality of the sexes.”

That says equality not superiority. Read it again if you don’t believe me. It’ll say the same thing. Then again, we live in a society where facts no longer matter and public opinion is judge and jury as far as sexual allegations that seem closely associated with the feminism movement.  Not every man is bad and evil. I’m sorry, but that’s the way it is. Masculinity is still sexy and not evil, wrong, too aggressive or what have you.

I have a special message for women who claim that they didn’t speak up sooner about sexual harassment or assault because they were told and made to feel that assault was normal. Listen to your own guidance. If your experience taught you anything (which when you’ve truly forgiven and healed, it should) let it be that you hold your own power. If it feels wrong, speak up. However, do so to the proper authorities and don’t make a spectacle of yourself and try to take down the entire male species based on your own experience. 

To the real victims, I’m sorry that opportunists make it harder for you to be believed. To the women who simply want to be the better species, who crave attention and/or think all women should be blindly believed and all men are bad despite facts or lackthereof...SHAME ON YOU!

People With Disabilities Need Confidence & A Purpose

I’ve always found it so hard to help people with disabilities because they, at least the ones I’ve tried to help, are generally very negative. After a lot of frustration at myself for not being able to help, I’ve since discovered what they need...

Confidence and a purpose outside of themselves and the limiting beliefs they have about their lives.

Often times, it’s easy to get consumed by and focus on our current circumstances and everything that’s gone wrong in our life. If enough goes wrong consecutively, your brain will actually begin operating where all you see is the negative in any situation. Well, what happens when our life is one big ugly circumstance? Randy Pausch said it best in his Last Lecture. He said, “we cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” 

At some point you have to come to terms with reality. It is what it is. The only thing you can control is what you decide to feel about and do about your circumstances. You’re making it a lot worse but choosing, yes I said choosing, to be resistant to the circumstances and do nothing but bitch and complain about them. 

You may not be able to change the circumstances, but you absolutely can change your response to them. That, in and of itself, will change not only your outlook but your life...and the circumstances themselves don’t even need to change for this to happen.

Look, I get it, so many people will tell us we will never amount to anything. If it’s not doctors it’s society and, sometimes, it’s someone very close to us. That’s why the answer must come from within. We need to build our own self worth and confidence and find a reason to go on, a purpose. That’s something universal and certainly not limited to those of us with disabilities.