There were 2 stories recently about disabled kids that pissed me off. I spoke about one in the last blog, but I speak about it in my newest vlog too, as well as another story that was even worse.
Apparently, a mother was dying of cancer and she didn't trust the government with her disabled child so she killed her and then attempted suicide. I understand not trusting the good for nothing system. What I never understand or condone is murder...
https://youtu.be/8iOtlr5skR0
Saturday, May 14, 2016
Saturday, May 7, 2016
Dear Parents of Disabled Kids
I was on Facebook today and saw a video that absolutely disgusted me. A friend of mine posted it with nothing but good intentions, but everything was wrong with it. I will link it at the end of this blog, but first let's discuss.
There is nothing wrong with people with disabilities, I don't care how severe. If someone on their deathbed can hear you, I don't care how severely "disabled" someone is, they can hear you too if they are not classified as hearing impaired. The video was of this man sobbing next to his 2 year old disabled son and his other child was reading the feed of his chat a few feet away, also susceptible to everything the father was saying.
He was crying about how his son would never do this or that, asking himself basically what he did to deserve it. Don't get me wrong, no child is ever sunshine and roses 24/7 so even parents of children without disabilities will go through weak moments and they're totally entitled to it. But a parent's #1 job is to love and BELIEVE in their child ABOVE ALL ELSE. Above their own doubts, above anything a doctor says...about EVERYTHING.
He's probably right because whether you think you can or can't, you're right. So he's going to raise his son under the assumption he WILL NOT improve and reach strides like other kids. And his other child will hear all of it. My younger brother got nervous something would happen to me even though I was raised as being no different. I can't imagine how damaging it would have been to hear my parents cry and act like they're being punished. For myself and my brother, that would have given no hope. It was so normal for him to see me in a wheelchair, he asked when he was getting one!
Listen, I'm by no means saying most of it will be easy for any parent, let alone a single one with a special needs child and their sibling to take care of. But this guy needs to be careful because the other child sounded like he was consoling his grown father and that's not healthy for a child to step into that role. If he wants to break down and cry, he should do it alone or find friends in a support group. I recommend an uplifting one where parents do more than sit around and cry, but instead encourage each other.
My parents raised me to believe I can do anything, despite doctors telling them I'd pretty much be a vegetable my entire life (doctors' words) and it's helped me grow into the self sufficient woman I am today. To be honest, I'm probably better mentally than most who are walking around. I do everything except walk and I'm by no means a vegetable. It's all in how you raise your kids, not the circumstances they're born under or what a doctor tells you. Don't give up on them before they even have a chance because proving doctors wrong has been so much fun for me!
Here is the video:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1282174208481190&id=731743396857610
Here is a video I made last year on the subject of parents who have children with disabilities:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gghr9aODvUU
There is nothing wrong with people with disabilities, I don't care how severe. If someone on their deathbed can hear you, I don't care how severely "disabled" someone is, they can hear you too if they are not classified as hearing impaired. The video was of this man sobbing next to his 2 year old disabled son and his other child was reading the feed of his chat a few feet away, also susceptible to everything the father was saying.
He was crying about how his son would never do this or that, asking himself basically what he did to deserve it. Don't get me wrong, no child is ever sunshine and roses 24/7 so even parents of children without disabilities will go through weak moments and they're totally entitled to it. But a parent's #1 job is to love and BELIEVE in their child ABOVE ALL ELSE. Above their own doubts, above anything a doctor says...about EVERYTHING.
He's probably right because whether you think you can or can't, you're right. So he's going to raise his son under the assumption he WILL NOT improve and reach strides like other kids. And his other child will hear all of it. My younger brother got nervous something would happen to me even though I was raised as being no different. I can't imagine how damaging it would have been to hear my parents cry and act like they're being punished. For myself and my brother, that would have given no hope. It was so normal for him to see me in a wheelchair, he asked when he was getting one!
Listen, I'm by no means saying most of it will be easy for any parent, let alone a single one with a special needs child and their sibling to take care of. But this guy needs to be careful because the other child sounded like he was consoling his grown father and that's not healthy for a child to step into that role. If he wants to break down and cry, he should do it alone or find friends in a support group. I recommend an uplifting one where parents do more than sit around and cry, but instead encourage each other.
My parents raised me to believe I can do anything, despite doctors telling them I'd pretty much be a vegetable my entire life (doctors' words) and it's helped me grow into the self sufficient woman I am today. To be honest, I'm probably better mentally than most who are walking around. I do everything except walk and I'm by no means a vegetable. It's all in how you raise your kids, not the circumstances they're born under or what a doctor tells you. Don't give up on them before they even have a chance because proving doctors wrong has been so much fun for me!
Here is the video:
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1282174208481190&id=731743396857610
Here is a video I made last year on the subject of parents who have children with disabilities:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gghr9aODvUU
Friday, May 6, 2016
I could use your support!
Hello everyone! I entered a contest to be featured in a fashion line & I really want to bring attention to the fact that people with disabilities can do things like that. In order to win, I need your votes!
Go to Instagram, find me at Marissa11586
LIKE all 3 pics of me in the black & white dancing shirt!
In your comment, please include #MissValentinNicole #MissValentínNicole @iamvalc @nicolevolynets @wearvalentinnicole
Thank you all! Please vote before May 11th!
Go to Instagram, find me at Marissa11586
LIKE all 3 pics of me in the black & white dancing shirt!
In your comment, please include #MissValentinNicole #MissValentínNicole @iamvalc @nicolevolynets @wearvalentinnicole
Thank you all! Please vote before May 11th!
Wednesday, May 4, 2016
Disabilities & Lack Mentality
Whether you believe you can or believe you can't, you're right. Too many people have a lack mentality nowadays, especially people with physical challenges.
https://youtu.be/JIvIpH2_UKY
https://youtu.be/JIvIpH2_UKY
Friday, April 29, 2016
The worst meme ever for wheelchairs!
I hate being categorized or having someone have pity on me. THIS meme pissed me off for all those in wheelchairs.
http://youtu.be/DMzUGkRhpUE
http://youtu.be/DMzUGkRhpUE
Sunday, April 24, 2016
Is it Gratitude or Envy?
I had to share this. A friend of mine sent it to me today and while I agree with the sentiment of gratitude, I think the ultimate message is so misguided and most people in society won't even realize it til I point it out. She knows me well and that is exactly why she sent it to me.
There is such a stigma around, well, everyone nowadays. The stigma around people in wheelchairs has always rolled (haha) off my back because if someone isn't directly affected, it's just said without thinking. Like everything else in life. But when a video like this circulates the internet I have to speak up. Because so many people DO believe this about THEMSELVES. I don't care what anyone thinks of me or of people in wheelchairs. What I do care about is the person who watches the end of this video, or even the whole thing, and RELATES.
This isn't about gratitude. It's about envy. When telling someone ELSE that they should be grateful cuz "at least you can do this and I can't" that's lack mentality and, if you know me at all, you know I HATE the words "I can't".
The people in this video are feeling sorry for themselves and they need to cut that shit out, STOP comparing and push themselves past the limiting beliefs they have. My message to anyone watching this video is turn it off, go do something you're great at and TRY one small thing you think you can't do, or that your ego tells you you can't do. Go into it with the belief that you can.You're going to shock yourself.
Getting off the soap box now. Watch the video and try not to throw up or roll your eyes.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1085457034848518&id=673094636084762&refsrc=https%3A%2F%2Fm.facebook.com%2FThinkingHumanity%2Fvideos%2F1085457034848518%2F&_rdr
There is such a stigma around, well, everyone nowadays. The stigma around people in wheelchairs has always rolled (haha) off my back because if someone isn't directly affected, it's just said without thinking. Like everything else in life. But when a video like this circulates the internet I have to speak up. Because so many people DO believe this about THEMSELVES. I don't care what anyone thinks of me or of people in wheelchairs. What I do care about is the person who watches the end of this video, or even the whole thing, and RELATES.
This isn't about gratitude. It's about envy. When telling someone ELSE that they should be grateful cuz "at least you can do this and I can't" that's lack mentality and, if you know me at all, you know I HATE the words "I can't".
The people in this video are feeling sorry for themselves and they need to cut that shit out, STOP comparing and push themselves past the limiting beliefs they have. My message to anyone watching this video is turn it off, go do something you're great at and TRY one small thing you think you can't do, or that your ego tells you you can't do. Go into it with the belief that you can.You're going to shock yourself.
Getting off the soap box now. Watch the video and try not to throw up or roll your eyes.
https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=1085457034848518&id=673094636084762&refsrc=https%3A%2F%2Fm.facebook.com%2FThinkingHumanity%2Fvideos%2F1085457034848518%2F&_rdr
Saturday, February 27, 2016
Politics & the Celebrity Elite
Headlines everywhere today read: "Aaron Carter Endorses Donald Trump!"
Well, for a D list celebrity (as his haters, not me, are calling him), Aaron Carter sure as hell made a splash today! His name is EVERYWHERE for this endorsement and almost none of it is support. Except for me.
I may be biased, because I too am a Trump supporter. Of course that means I was happy with this endorsement. However, this is what I hate about social media. Just because someone shares a personal view on something that people strongly disagree with, it means they lose fans.
How about we listen to each other, like open hearted and opened minded human beings about WHY we support or don't support people? Why we feel the way we do about certain things? We may just learn something. If you make an informed decision, you can't go wrong for YOURSELF. You either make a good choice or you learn from the downfalls of it. Yeah, there's a ripple effect, but we all go into that voting booth ALONE and the amount of propaganda is disgusting on both sides. So it's best to have our own research and opinion anyway and not knock others for doing the same.
The personal attacks being sent to Aaron are disgusting. Calling him a D list meth addict and everything! He is someone who has struggled with addiction and it's not something to poke fun at. I lost my brother to years of addiction and he hung himself over the summer. But I digress. The lack of privacy and the risk of attacks like what is happening to Aaron is exactly why so many in Hollywood (especially A and B list celebrities) have become puppets and followers instead of leaders. They know it could mean the end of their career and smearing of their name if they dare to step out and be different from the rest.
Listen, I'm not knocking the majority of Hollywood, or anyone in the country for that matter, for disagreeing with me. That's the beautiful thing about this country. I couldn't care less who you support, or what you do as long as it's an informed decision and also not something that I feel will hurt others or this country as a whole if we're talking strictly politics.
So, Oh Aaron, props to you for having the balls to speak out and support someone of your own choosing!
Sunday, February 14, 2016
Be Your Own Valentine. Love Yourself: For All My Singles...
I have heard that February 13th is National Self Love/Self Care Day, but I'm choosing to write about it on a day that's focused on love every year...Valentine's Day.
Through participating in Sunny Dawn Johnston's 44 day mind, body, spirit detox, I realized that I suffer from a lack of self love and self care. Before doing the detox, I didn't even think that was possible for me. It just never occurred to me, until I reminded myself and made the connection that everything going on in my external environment, was and always is a direct reflection of what is going on in my internal environment.
Self doubt. Fear. Anxiety. Stress. Lack.
Just to name a few.
I know of the idea that everything going on externally is a reflection of what's going on internally, but I also liked to participate in blame and always think it was someone else's issues or uncontrollable circumstances that were just annoying the living shit out of me and I couldn't do anything about it cuz it was their fault and I was trying to help THEM past it and not myself. It was much easier but that belief and perspective made my life harder in the end. God forbid I admit that I was choosing to deal with it because the extreme alternatives scared me. So nope. It's all everyone else's fault!
Wrong.
I choose to be around the people I surround myself with, which means I ultimately choose their behavior and all situations that transpire from my bedroom to trips out of state or meeting strangers on the street because I'm a match to it inside somehow...even when I don't make the connection as to how.
I've depleted myself at times in life. I'm a giver and I have a very hard time receiving, despite the many blessings I have already received in life and am forever grateful for. I'm no martyr, I do know how blessed I am which is why I give of my time, energy, love, money and so much more whenever I can. That's not a bad thing, unless it leaves you depleted.
Well, I will never again say that the universe hasn't given me a hard lesson to learn. Sure, I've ALWAYS looked at my "disability" as the "ability" to overcome obstacles and teach the world about embracing differences. That was never a tough one for me. No, what's hard as hell is to learn is that it's okay and necessary to receive and it's okay to feel and say that you currently have no more to give and that maybe you need the love you're so freely giving to everyone else. I have felt like it would be selfish of me to ever feel this way but that doesn't change the fact that I do. So I suffered a lot of guilt and shame because of it.
I always get bashful when people compliment me; looks, outlook etc. I accept it and thank them, but I also am extremely humble about it. I've grown up believing ego was a terrible thing. Throughout life I've adopted the belief that I was asking for too much, so I stopped asking for anything. It wasn't even necessarily people telling me that either. Life just unfolded in certain ways that left me honestly wanting to put my desires on the back burner over and over. I started to feel guilty for wanting or needing anything from a ride on a night out with friends (okay so some did cause me to feel guilty for that LOL) to wanting to be the owner of a mind, body, spirit center. Well, damn that lack mentality to hell now.
I'm a deserving person. I'm deserving of love. I'm deserving of abundance. I'm deserving of freedom. I'm deserving of safety and security. I'm deserving of amazing experiences and amazing people. I also deserve to dispel my life of any and all negativity in all of its forms. That's going to get a lot of push back, but that's not my fault. Once I change my habits and behavior, it's going to cause my life to shift in many ways.
No, this blog isn't an anti Valentine's Day blog. It's a blog expressing that I love myself while I await the arrival of all that the universe has on the way for me.
"Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all..." - Whitney Houston
I have heard that February 13th is National Self Love/Self Care Day, but I'm choosing to write about it on a day that's focused on love every year...Valentine's Day.
Through participating in Sunny Dawn Johnston's 44 day mind, body, spirit detox, I realized that I suffer from a lack of self love and self care. Before doing the detox, I didn't even think that was possible for me. It just never occurred to me, until I reminded myself and made the connection that everything going on in my external environment, was and always is a direct reflection of what is going on in my internal environment.
Self doubt. Fear. Anxiety. Stress. Lack.
Just to name a few.
I know of the idea that everything going on externally is a reflection of what's going on internally, but I also liked to participate in blame and always think it was someone else's issues or uncontrollable circumstances that were just annoying the living shit out of me and I couldn't do anything about it cuz it was their fault and I was trying to help THEM past it and not myself. It was much easier but that belief and perspective made my life harder in the end. God forbid I admit that I was choosing to deal with it because the extreme alternatives scared me. So nope. It's all everyone else's fault!
Wrong.
I choose to be around the people I surround myself with, which means I ultimately choose their behavior and all situations that transpire from my bedroom to trips out of state or meeting strangers on the street because I'm a match to it inside somehow...even when I don't make the connection as to how.
I've depleted myself at times in life. I'm a giver and I have a very hard time receiving, despite the many blessings I have already received in life and am forever grateful for. I'm no martyr, I do know how blessed I am which is why I give of my time, energy, love, money and so much more whenever I can. That's not a bad thing, unless it leaves you depleted.
Well, I will never again say that the universe hasn't given me a hard lesson to learn. Sure, I've ALWAYS looked at my "disability" as the "ability" to overcome obstacles and teach the world about embracing differences. That was never a tough one for me. No, what's hard as hell is to learn is that it's okay and necessary to receive and it's okay to feel and say that you currently have no more to give and that maybe you need the love you're so freely giving to everyone else. I have felt like it would be selfish of me to ever feel this way but that doesn't change the fact that I do. So I suffered a lot of guilt and shame because of it.
I always get bashful when people compliment me; looks, outlook etc. I accept it and thank them, but I also am extremely humble about it. I've grown up believing ego was a terrible thing. Throughout life I've adopted the belief that I was asking for too much, so I stopped asking for anything. It wasn't even necessarily people telling me that either. Life just unfolded in certain ways that left me honestly wanting to put my desires on the back burner over and over. I started to feel guilty for wanting or needing anything from a ride on a night out with friends (okay so some did cause me to feel guilty for that LOL) to wanting to be the owner of a mind, body, spirit center. Well, damn that lack mentality to hell now.
I'm a deserving person. I'm deserving of love. I'm deserving of abundance. I'm deserving of freedom. I'm deserving of safety and security. I'm deserving of amazing experiences and amazing people. I also deserve to dispel my life of any and all negativity in all of its forms. That's going to get a lot of push back, but that's not my fault. Once I change my habits and behavior, it's going to cause my life to shift in many ways.
No, this blog isn't an anti Valentine's Day blog. It's a blog expressing that I love myself while I await the arrival of all that the universe has on the way for me.
"Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all..." - Whitney Houston
Friday, February 12, 2016
My Belief in Love Has Been Restored
My belief in love has been restored
I would make a video about this, but my phone can't handle more videos until I upload my fitness one.
Anyway, this morning I saw the new pictures of Khloe and Lamar. My heart burst and my smile hurt my cheeks! I have so many thoughts on this, all that can be summed up in one word and a few emojis:
AHHH ❤️💖❣💗💛💚💕💘💙💞💝💜💓
I am BEYOND happy! My faith in love has been restored! I always loved them together and I had a feeling one day they would be back together!
Okay, calm down, it's one night of pictures and it doesn't mean they're together romantically. Okay, but what if they are?! Let's discuss.
As I said, I always loved Khloe and Lamar together. It broke my heart when they broke up and when I started to hear of Lamar's struggles. So many people have so much shit to say about it, so I figured I'd say my piece.
Lamar is, first and foremost, a human being. He's been a broken, shattered person since he was a kid. His relationship, or lack thereof, with his father and his fathers' own struggles effected him a lot. That happens. When your parent is an addict, you either follow in their footsteps or stay away from it. Lamar is not the first or last person that has gone down a wrong path. There's a reason his life was spared and I wish him nothing but love, for himself and whichever good support system he chooses to keep around.
Khloe is a strong ass woman. Period, point blank. I love her and Lamar together, but to be quite honest, I don't know if I'd have half the strength she's had to be there in a marriage with him for so many years and then be by his side when he was at deaths' door. For my own sanity and health, I probably would have left too but not been able to be there as a friend and then again when he almost died. But I'm not in love with him, so I can't really say that I wouldn't. It's no secret that Khloe never fell out of love with Lamar, which plays a big part in why she stuck around and why they may be back together. It's a testament to how strong she is as a person and how strong love can be.
People are gonna talk shit, but I choose to see 2 people in love, trying to make it work. Plus, seeing Lamar out with Khloe's whole family reminded me of tweets he sent out a few years ago. He basically bashed the haters and said Khloe and her family were the only real family he's ever had. He loves them and it's clearly reciprocated so I hope that people can wish them well and be done with it.
I would make a video about this, but my phone can't handle more videos until I upload my fitness one.
Anyway, this morning I saw the new pictures of Khloe and Lamar. My heart burst and my smile hurt my cheeks! I have so many thoughts on this, all that can be summed up in one word and a few emojis:
AHHH ❤️💖❣💗💛💚💕💘💙💞💝💜💓
I am BEYOND happy! My faith in love has been restored! I always loved them together and I had a feeling one day they would be back together!
Okay, calm down, it's one night of pictures and it doesn't mean they're together romantically. Okay, but what if they are?! Let's discuss.
As I said, I always loved Khloe and Lamar together. It broke my heart when they broke up and when I started to hear of Lamar's struggles. So many people have so much shit to say about it, so I figured I'd say my piece.
Lamar is, first and foremost, a human being. He's been a broken, shattered person since he was a kid. His relationship, or lack thereof, with his father and his fathers' own struggles effected him a lot. That happens. When your parent is an addict, you either follow in their footsteps or stay away from it. Lamar is not the first or last person that has gone down a wrong path. There's a reason his life was spared and I wish him nothing but love, for himself and whichever good support system he chooses to keep around.
Khloe is a strong ass woman. Period, point blank. I love her and Lamar together, but to be quite honest, I don't know if I'd have half the strength she's had to be there in a marriage with him for so many years and then be by his side when he was at deaths' door. For my own sanity and health, I probably would have left too but not been able to be there as a friend and then again when he almost died. But I'm not in love with him, so I can't really say that I wouldn't. It's no secret that Khloe never fell out of love with Lamar, which plays a big part in why she stuck around and why they may be back together. It's a testament to how strong she is as a person and how strong love can be.
People are gonna talk shit, but I choose to see 2 people in love, trying to make it work. Plus, seeing Lamar out with Khloe's whole family reminded me of tweets he sent out a few years ago. He basically bashed the haters and said Khloe and her family were the only real family he's ever had. He loves them and it's clearly reciprocated so I hope that people can wish them well and be done with it.
Wednesday, December 16, 2015
Peaceful, easy feeling...
I love music. It always speaks to me and I have different music for all of my moods. Okay, so BSB is usually (still) my go-to. It's amazing for manifesting too.
I love the Eagles and their song "Peaceful, Easy Feeling." Isn't that what we all want? So many people try to feed us lies that "anything worth having doesn't come easy." Okay, so it's not ALWAYS a lie. Sometimes things are hard because you're pushing against what is supposed to be there or fighting to hold onto what (or who) you need to let go of.
It's my belief that when you're on the right path in life, things just seem to flow. You get a peaceful, easy feeling. Always look for that. Look within. If you have peace and things are easy, keep going in that direction.
I love the Eagles and their song "Peaceful, Easy Feeling." Isn't that what we all want? So many people try to feed us lies that "anything worth having doesn't come easy." Okay, so it's not ALWAYS a lie. Sometimes things are hard because you're pushing against what is supposed to be there or fighting to hold onto what (or who) you need to let go of.
It's my belief that when you're on the right path in life, things just seem to flow. You get a peaceful, easy feeling. Always look for that. Look within. If you have peace and things are easy, keep going in that direction.
Sunday, December 13, 2015
Only Human
Every time I get overwhelmed, the song "Only Human" by Christina Perri plays in my head. I'm to the point in my life where my wellbeing is really important to me. Don't wait as long as I did. We're all only human and can only give what we have. Make sure you're not giving from an empty cup.
Saturday, December 12, 2015
I Suck At Structure
I'm an entrepreneur. I hate thinking inside the box and for the most part I hate deadlines. Which is why I suck at blogging. But here's the latest for me:
I've been doing tons of YouTube videos again. Check out my channel Marissa11586 and subscribe.
I also have a brand new website http://www.marissameleske.info/
New courses
http://www.marissameleske.bigcartel.com/
And a FREE newsletter/mailing list
https://tinyletter.com/marissameleske
I've been doing tons of YouTube videos again. Check out my channel Marissa11586 and subscribe.
I also have a brand new website http://www.marissameleske.info/
New courses
http://www.marissameleske.bigcartel.com/
And a FREE newsletter/mailing list
https://tinyletter.com/marissameleske
Sunday, October 12, 2014
Haven't been here in awhile....
Hey everyone!
Who is still reading this blog? If you are, please let me know! And if you're just joining me, welcome! I've been so busy and I admit I kinda abandoned this site for bubblews. But something pulled me back here. I kinda feel like this is a less stressful way of doing things. It's more fun with less pressure.
I'm on a journey to becoming a spiritual healer, after seeing one myself last year. She told me I was a healer back then, but I'm just recently starting to see and figure out why. I'm not quite ready for clients yet, but I've been doing some practices to enhance my spiritual growth as well as balance out my real life. I will probably be writing a book about that, so look out for that and for any announcements about when I'll be offering my healing services.
In the mean time...here are books I've already written that you can check out!
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=marissa%20meleske&sprefix=marissa+meles%2Caps
Thanks and I promise to be on here more often!
Who is still reading this blog? If you are, please let me know! And if you're just joining me, welcome! I've been so busy and I admit I kinda abandoned this site for bubblews. But something pulled me back here. I kinda feel like this is a less stressful way of doing things. It's more fun with less pressure.
I'm on a journey to becoming a spiritual healer, after seeing one myself last year. She told me I was a healer back then, but I'm just recently starting to see and figure out why. I'm not quite ready for clients yet, but I've been doing some practices to enhance my spiritual growth as well as balance out my real life. I will probably be writing a book about that, so look out for that and for any announcements about when I'll be offering my healing services.
In the mean time...here are books I've already written that you can check out!
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_1?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=marissa%20meleske&sprefix=marissa+meles%2Caps
Thanks and I promise to be on here more often!
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