Why People Hate Being Preached To

Are you the type of person that wants to save the world? So many people, like myself, have a Superman or Superwoman complex. We just want everyone, especially those we love, to be happy. Often times, it falls on deaf ears and here's why...

The people in a rut see where we are and get bitter. Having someone happy and healthy tell you what you're doing wrong and how to fix it just doesn't compute because of the emotions the person currently going through it is feeling. They KNOW we are speaking logic and even trying to help but they are jealous of where we are and how easy we make it look that there is a large amount of resistance to them changing their own behavior and lives at all.

Which brings me to the next reason people hate being preached to. They think it can't be that easy. When you are that deep in an emotional and mental rut, getting out can be extremely overwhelming and seem completely impossible. Well meaning people who have been through it often oversimplify it because we take our emotions out of it and can clearly look at the steps it took us to get out of our own ruts. Because, yes, we HAVE all been there. No one is immune to hard times. It's a part of life and what matters is how we rise after falling on hard times.

The final, and most frustrating, reason people hate being preached to is because they want to stew in their negativity. There is really nothing we can ever do. They are unconsciously choosing to stay in their shit and that completely blocks them from listening to anything we have to say to try and help. All we will receive back is fights, anger and lasting out.

So what do we "preachers" do? It sucks to see people we love going through turmoil. However, it's equally frustrating to have them complain and reach out for help and then transfer their anger to us, the very people they turned to for love and help and who are definitely trying to help. The best thing we can do sometimes is walk away. If someone is unwilling to change, it will just bring us down with them and I, for one, do not recommend that. Change comes by influence, not force. Maybe, just maybe, by you living your own life to the fullest, they will see what can happen in their own life.