Why Ramps & Elevators Are More Practical Than Stairs

Why ramps and elevators are more practical than stairs

https://youtu.be/24doiUv5WOw

Wonder Woman of the Week on “The Lemon Squeeze Show”

Thank you so much to Constance & Jojo for choosing me as your Wonder Woman Of The week! Here is my interview

https://youtu.be/i9ZIiXiOuvA

Why Should Personal Mistakes In A Public Figures’ Life Negate All Of The Good They’ve Done?

I must say, it’s been awhile since I’ve felt the need to write one of these blogs. Maybe there have been reasons to do so since my last one, but I’ve been busy living my life. However, it doesn’t mean that I won’t stand by people I love, so here I am...

As you may have found out, Paulie Calafiore is once again under fire. This time for alleged cheating allegations on girlfriend Danielle Maltby. I feel weird even bringing this up to be honest and the only reason I am is because of the storm it’s causing across the internet. Literally everything bad people have said about Paulie during his time on Big Brother 18 in 2016 is being regurgitated. 

So here’s what I think. Paulie and Danielle are both public figures, I get that. But they are also human beings. I do not condone cheating, however, it is also not my relationship nor is it any of my business OR yours. I don’t understand why people are so quick to demonize nowadays over personal mistakes and make up their own stories and conclusions as to how everyone involved should feel or what they should do. It really reminds me of the term “fake news.”

If Paulie committed an actual crime, I could see the judgment. I could even see being hurt on Danielle’s behalf if you’re a fan of hers. However, cheating is a mistake. A PERSONAL mistake. He’s done nothing to anyone else but Danielle (and if he’s ever actually cheated before.) Unless someone does something personal to me, I’m not jumping on any bandwagons to demonize and hate on them. It does not make him a bad person and it most certainly does not take away anything from my personal experiences with him over the years. He and his family have been nothing but loving and amazing people to me. He’s done so much good for so many people, namely through his charity The Rise Up and I’m sorry but something happening in his personal relationship does not and should not negate all of that. It is by no means a jab at any of the causes he supports. Cheating is a bad thing, of course, however it is not to be compared to rape, abuse or any of the other things people are claiming Paulie is. People REALLY need to learn the difference in that all across the board. Which brings me to my next point...

I will never understand why haters follow or comment on everything someone does whom they can’t stand. Some even take it steps further and harass their family, friends, people they associate with through business and supporters. It’s absolutely ridiculous to me. People have too much time on their hands if all they’re going to do is hate. There is more than enough talent to follow than to concentrate so much of your 24 hours in a day on people you don’t like or support. Spread love, not hate.

I don’t care what anyone else plans to do, but come Tuesday, June 12th, I will once again be repping #TeamPaulie during his stint on “The Challenge” on MTV! Here is Paulie’s personal statement on what has transpired. I believe the LEAST we can do is grant his wish for privacy.

https://www.eonline.com/news/942037/paul-calafiore-addresses-cheating-scandal-with-emotional-plea-to-danielle-maltby

My Book Release Date & Title Have Been Chosen!

What better way to celebrate my brother’s life & help others than to release my book on what would have been his 27th birthday? 

I’m still playing around with text but this will be, generally, what the book cover looks like. 

RELEASE DATE AUGUST 5, 2018! It will be available on Amazon. I better keep writing LOL.

Self Love & Self Care Is Expressing Gratitude to God

We are in a time where we need constant validation, but are often the last to give it to ourselves. We always need or want someone else to tell us how great we are our give us our value. That’s the name of the game when it comes to social media especially. It’s all about the clicks, likes and comments instead of validating ourselves.

Unfortunately, people are quite selfish. You’re going to be an afterthought more than enough times in your life to other people, don’t make one of those people you. Being selfish is NOT the same thing as having self love and self care. If you’re able to take care of, value and love yourself while also wanting to help and give to others, that is the ultimate goal for self love and self care. If you’re going to love yourself and show no love to anyone else, that’s conceit.

Gratitude is a game changer. It can truly turn your life completely around for the better. The law of attraction will ensure that the more grateful you are, the more you will have to be grateful for. If you’re not grateful for who God made you to be and for what you already have, why should you get more? God doesn’t make mistakes. You’re here for a purpose but it’s up to you to figure out what that is for you. 

I know sometimes that’s easier said than done in the midst of hard times. However, if you can’t bring yourself to be grateful, at least trust that God has a plan and knows what He’s doing.

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Happy Birthday to Our Beautiful, Legal Immigrant First Lady, Melania Trump!

It’s funny to me, but yet very sad. Melania is everything the liberals and Democrats should love; she’s beautiful, an immigrant who fled a communist country, speaks multiple languages and is a strong woman.

Yet people like Chelsea Handler and the rest of the main stream, fake news media refuse to interview her because they “wouldn’t understand her because of her heavy accent.” Am I the only one who picks up on the hypocrisy here?! She is everything the left should be salivating over!

I’ll tell you why they don’t like her. She stands for everything REAL about America. She legally came here from Slovenia, for one thing. She has an imperfect husband and chooses to stand by him and she puts her child first above all. The hissy fit people had over Barron finishing the school year out in NY was astounding! She’s his mother, first and foremost, mind your own business. For the party of live and let live, they’re sure up a lot of people’s personal business.

Let’s talk about the elephant in the room, shall we? Apparently, we have to treat Donald Trump and his alleged affairs the same way we treated Bill’s, and yet insult his wife relentlessly. The difference, however, is clear. Up until he launched his political campaign, Donald Trump was a private citizen. If he wanted to be a pig, he could. Bill Clinton, however, used the Oval Office so it became our business. Further, up until #metoo, women would brag about having sex with multi-billionaires like Donald Trump. No one was crying rape.

Being in the public eye comes with having to deal with the hate thrown at you, I fully understand that. I’m sure Melania does, too. But she shouldn’t have to. There should be SOME line drawn for attacking someone whose only crime is that her husband is trying to save this country from the REAL crimes that have been committed here. I sincerely hope she enjoys her day today, with family and friends, as well as well wishes from many across America and the world. She deserves nothing less!

I appeared on the internet TV show “Your Voice America!” 🇺🇸

Thank you SO much to Your Voice America for having me! Ann, Traci & Carrie are QUEENS & it was an honor to be produced by non other than Bill Mitchell. My interview is at the 47 minute mark but I suggest watching the entire one hour show 💖🇺🇸 

Topics we discussed were:

My disability 

Being pro-life

Being a President Donald Trump supporter 

Identity politics 

Opioid epidemic 

Suicide epidemic

https://www.pscp.tv/w/bZjw0TFyYVFaREJQVmJQanp8MWt2SnBXUUVycmdHRbwiAdIbn93yhRNLu9mvOnL-11-mOEHAoP4-KkHYoxXH

Here is just my segment on Your Voice America I highly recommend watching the entire episode of “The Better View” on periscope but for those who just wanted to hear what I had to say, hope you enjoy! 🇺🇸

https://www.facebook.com/PushPastParalysis/posts/1410420272395688

https://youtu.be/lKEiXMmaAa4

An Ordinary American Is Exactly Who Arizona Needs To Do Extraordinary Things

There are a few things I pride myself on. One is being able to snuff out fake and disingenuous people and another is supporting people I truly believe in, especially under the toughest of circumstances. All my chips are usually on the underdog. I’ve found these qualities to be an asset as I get older, in general, and also when deciding whom to support that’s ultimately going to make decisions that affect me as an American Citizen. 

I’m from NY. I appreciate honesty and bluntness. I know it’s “nicer” to some people to be told exactly what they want to hear or a watered down version of the truth. But that just magnifies the problem. I would much rather know what I’m up against and be able to figure out my next move from there. Like him or not, President Trump does that and if you ignore the trivial banter, the numbers coming out prove that his strategy is effective. The best part is that I don’t even think it’s a strategy. He’s in his 70’s, that’s just who he is! 

If there’s one thing I don’t find relatable about the president, it’s that he’s a multi-billionaire. I disagree that his family got him where he is, because HE turned a million dollar loan into the Trump business it is today. However, the average American grinds and works, sometimes paycheck to paycheck and never reaches that level. For this same reason, I can’t get behind the idea of Oprah Winfrey running either. 

On the opposite end, I know for a fact that there are many politicians who get into the business because it’s a job that’s going to line their pockets for decades, potentially making them more than what they were doing before entering into the lion’s den. We call that the swamp and we need someone to drain it. We need a happy medium...how about a guy who isn’t filthy rich, but is successful and has been through hell and back enough times, in different ways, to be able to truly inspire us all about what the American Dream really is? 

Over a year ago, I stumbled upon a YouTube channel and twitter account that I quickly began to follow. It was some guy named Brenden Dilley from Arizona who sounded like he should be in NY. He was blunt, honest and may have swore a little (we’ll get to the title of his book in a second.) I took to him pretty quickly, being a no nonsense woman from NY who has chosen not to be a victim to my disability. Like him, I’m also a life coach and author and really appreciate his approach. When you hear the term “life coach”, you usually think of a structured way of getting you into gear to meet your goals. Nah, he was also a personal trainer and uses that kind of motivation in everything he does. I swear we’re related in some way. Or we should be. 

Once I started to tune into news about the 2016 election, Brenden started sharing his periscopes about politics on his twitter. He has a unique way of tying in life lessons (that you can find in his book) into politics, making sense of them that way and talking about how to solve those types of problems. In November, I finally managed to get my hands on his book, “Still Breathin’: The Wisdom & Teachings Of A Perfectly Flawed Man.” 

(For my review of the book, go to my blog & video

http://marissameleske.blogspot.com/2017/12/book-review-of-still-breathin-wisdom.html

https://youtu.be/h9huiscJeyQ)

I’ve read my share of self help books, and I see why he doesn’t consider it your average self help book. It’s a great book for anyone in your life (or you, yourself) who needs help but is resistant to it or scoffs at the idea of seeing someone for help with their issues. Who WOULDN’T want help from a guy who doesn’t even know just how humble it is to admit you’re flawed from the second someone spots your book and its title? So why am I telling you all this in a political blog? Because someone who sounds NOTHING like a politician is EXACTLY who we need to start electing! 

You know how I know that Brenden Dilley is exactly who Arizona District 8 needs? EVERYONE is silent about him, despite the fact that he ran in under 2 months before the primary, with 200+ more signatures than were required for his petition to run and almost $50,000 in small donations. Did I also mention that just a short time before all this began, he gained full custody of his beautiful daughters? That shows incredible character in my opinion. It still baffles me that everyone is being so quiet about him, yet I know that means he’s exactly who we need in this country. Literally, everyone has kept his campaign hush hush, except his supporters and the news show “Your Voice America” which can be found at https://www.yourvoiceamerica.tv/

He’s real, honest and genuine. Something NOT seen in any politician of my lifetime. If I had to pick between him, Oprah or, yes, even Trump, I’d back him 100%. For now, I did hear Arizona is supposed to be amazing for those of us in wheelchairs...if only they had a beach too! 

Here is a short list on where Brenden stands on certain issues: 

Build the Wall

Pro life 

Pro second amendment 

Has legislation written for education and credit reform, as well as a bill for our amazing first responders

Pro Religious freedom 

Congressional term limits 

And more! 

Dilley2018.com 

Election is 2/27/18

District 8 consists of: Peoria, Phoenix, Sun City West, El Mirage, Surprise, New River, Anthem, Glendale, Black Canyon City, Wickenburg, Litchfield Park, Goodyear, Buckeye, Avondale, Youngtown, Waddell, Cave Creek

Find your polling place at:

https://voter.azsos.gov/VoterView/PollingPlaceSearchMobile.do

Governor Kasich Signs Down-Syndrome Abortion Ban In Ohio

Let me start by saying that I’m no fan of Governor John Kasich, but I’m a fan of the abortion ban for Down-Syndrome babies. It is possible that someone you don’t particularly like will do something you 100% support. If there is one time where I’m totally and completely against abortion, completely anti-abortion...it is on the subject of disabilities! 

My parents were given a 50/50 chance I’d live & even less of a chance I’d be a “normal” kid. My point in this is that you never know, so why rob any child of a full life because a doctor scares the shit out of you as a parent? 

When you have sex, you know there is a chance you’re going to get pregnant if you don’t take proper precautions. Even then, there is no guarantee. I’m of the belief that any responsible adult should also take into account that their child could, potentially, be born with a disability. If you aren’t okay with that, it is up to you to take the precautions and NOT take it out on the child, who needs you...or at least someone, to take care of them. If you truly can’t take the thought or the pressure, give them to a family who will love them the way they deserve to be loved. Give them to a family who will help them realize their true potential and prove doctors (and you) wrong. 

It is up to you, as the parent, to raise your child to be strong, independent, kind hearted and a slew of other things. In my opinion, that goes quadruple for a child with a disability. Yes, it is a huge responsibility and I do understand being scared. But open your eyes. Stop looking for what scares you. You’re sure to find it if you look for it. Instead, look for the success stories. There are a lot of us out there and, speaking for myself, I’m more than willing to help. 

The Misconception of What Feminism Really Means

We live in a time where apparently there’s a new definition to every term we thought we knew. Feminism is the newest one...

Feminism, by definition, means “the advocacy of women’s rights on the basis of the quality of the sexes.”

That says equality not superiority. Read it again if you don’t believe me. It’ll say the same thing. Then again, we live in a society where facts no longer matter and public opinion is judge and jury as far as sexual allegations that seem closely associated with the feminism movement.  Not every man is bad and evil. I’m sorry, but that’s the way it is. Masculinity is still sexy and not evil, wrong, too aggressive or what have you.

I have a special message for women who claim that they didn’t speak up sooner about sexual harassment or assault because they were told and made to feel that assault was normal. Listen to your own guidance. If your experience taught you anything (which when you’ve truly forgiven and healed, it should) let it be that you hold your own power. If it feels wrong, speak up. However, do so to the proper authorities and don’t make a spectacle of yourself and try to take down the entire male species based on your own experience. 

To the real victims, I’m sorry that opportunists make it harder for you to be believed. To the women who simply want to be the better species, who crave attention and/or think all women should be blindly believed and all men are bad despite facts or lackthereof...SHAME ON YOU!

People With Disabilities Need Confidence & A Purpose

I’ve always found it so hard to help people with disabilities because they, at least the ones I’ve tried to help, are generally very negative. After a lot of frustration at myself for not being able to help, I’ve since discovered what they need...

Confidence and a purpose outside of themselves and the limiting beliefs they have about their lives.

Often times, it’s easy to get consumed by and focus on our current circumstances and everything that’s gone wrong in our life. If enough goes wrong consecutively, your brain will actually begin operating where all you see is the negative in any situation. Well, what happens when our life is one big ugly circumstance? Randy Pausch said it best in his Last Lecture. He said, “we cannot change the cards we are dealt, just how we play the hand.” 

At some point you have to come to terms with reality. It is what it is. The only thing you can control is what you decide to feel about and do about your circumstances. You’re making it a lot worse but choosing, yes I said choosing, to be resistant to the circumstances and do nothing but bitch and complain about them. 

You may not be able to change the circumstances, but you absolutely can change your response to them. That, in and of itself, will change not only your outlook but your life...and the circumstances themselves don’t even need to change for this to happen.

Look, I get it, so many people will tell us we will never amount to anything. If it’s not doctors it’s society and, sometimes, it’s someone very close to us. That’s why the answer must come from within. We need to build our own self worth and confidence and find a reason to go on, a purpose. That’s something universal and certainly not limited to those of us with disabilities. 

Flyin’ Solo With A Disability - My Trip From NY To Vegas!

On November 11-13, 2017, I flew on a plane for the first time by myself. It was even better than flying with someone. It made me want to take more trips alone and even look more forward to moving out on my own! 

Here is a brief description of my experience! 

https://youtu.be/-jrVQp8_BFc

Rape allegations - The Court Of Public Opinion - I Support Nick Carter

If my brother’s addiction taught me anything, it’s that everyone deserves a second chance in life until the day they die. He pissed me off to no end at times and I hated the addict he became, but I always loved my brother and still do. No matter how angry I got, I always had hope that he’d change his life around.

His name was Nick. Now, the only other Nick “in my life” is being dragged through the mud for something that supposedly happened years ago. He had much of the same struggles as my brother. He’s a recovering addict with a past. 

Let me be clear; I’m not excusing any rapist or sexual assaulter. 

Nick could have done what he’s being accused of, for all I know. However, when someone cleans up their life and gets their act together in the ways Nick has, it is a damn shame when their past is thrown back in their face. It’s even more of a shame when it’s the latest fad to do it. I don’t believe half of the “victims” who speak out lately because there are many holes in their stories and many just want a quick and pretty penny. So it isn’t just because the latest story has hit one of my favorite people.

Have we gotten to such a hateful time in this world where we’ve forgotten about forgiveness and the chance to change? Nick has changed for the better, as far as I’m concerned. I’m proud of the man he’s become and I’m proud to support him.

Nick has responded to the allegations:
http://tmz.me/HzlUUxO